Mood

I had planned in advance to travel to Fresno and
spend a particular weekend with my parents/family.

Out of nowhere my father-in-law tells my husband and I that
we are attending a wedding the same week, just 2 days before the event.

Are you serious?

We ended up attending the wedding
and canceling my original plan to go visit my family.

Like the saying goes

"Parents will age and die,
Children will grow and go their separate ways,
but your spouse will be the one to go through
thick and thin with you. Live with you until you age and die.

but then there goes the saying

"You can find another wife but
you won't be able to find another set of parents"

So there goes my happy mood.

Sister-in-law

I've heard my brother say to my sister-in-law in the past

"Pa Houa is going to get marry one day. This isn't her real home.
It is yours and will be yours so you are responsible to take care of it."

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The sister-in-law can sleep in
but the daughter-in-law can't.
Sleeping in is considered lazy
when done by the daughter-in-law.

The sister-in-law doesn't have to cook dinner
but the daughter-in-law have to because
it is her responsibility.

The sister-in-law can go out for days and nights
but the daughter-in-law can't even go to the mall for a couple of hours.
She might go cheat or guys might try to hit on her.

The sister-in-laws can wear short-shorts and dresses
but the daughter-in-law must wear pants and cover up.
It doesn't look good for the father-in-law.
It is disrespectful to show the collar bone or bare legs.

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Now I understand.

Missing out

The struggles of trying to be in two places at one time.

An example would be Mother's Day.
My family celebrate Mother's Day on the actual day.
My in-laws also celebrate on the same day.
Since my family lives about 2 hours away
I can't quickly celebrate with one then run to the other.